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Gentleman assemble – how to organise an epic stag do, a best man’s guide

So you’ve found yourself at the helm as the best man or you are the groom and leading from the front yourself. Now it’s time to organise an epic stag do ahead of the wedding day. It’s your job to pull together a great team of lads, create epic memories, stitch the stag up nicely and ultimately organise the best stag do you can. This will also offer perfect material to form the basis of some great best man speech jokes down the line (and of course some which shouldn’t make the cut!) Now its time to organise an epic stag do to send the main man off in style. Make sure it goes off without a hitch by following these simple pointers. Work out the guest list for the stag do Spend time with the groom to work out who they would like to invite on their stag do. Start by drawing up a list of names and contact numbers/details. This will include close friends, family members, work/uni mates, in laws and so on. If you are travelling abroad, bear in mind that you may have two events – one away and one locally. The chances are you will want your closest friends (and party animals) along for the foreign do, whilst the wider circle of friends will make it to the local event.  Have a rough list for both, or invite everyone to both events. Inevitably cost and availability will whittle the numbers down accordingly. Just having one stag do in your home country? Then identify who the stag would like to invite, then get the invites out and confirmations early on. Now your set. Decide the location of your stag do Choose your location wisely. Has the groom given an indication of where he’d like to go? Will you be having a local and a foreign do?  You will need to play to the crowd and the stags wants here, using a sprinkle of your own imagination and initiative.  Popular stag do locations in the UK include these tried and tested destinations: Leeds Bristol Newcastle Bournemouth Edinburgh Cardiff London Nottingham Brighton Liverpool Manchester Newquay All of the above will offer plenty of activities and great nightlife. Bear in mind however, prices may vary depending on where you go. If you are looking for alternative stag do ideas in the UK – read this for some inspiration. Thinking of further afield? You can’t go wrong with the following stag do locations in Europe and further afield: Budapest Prague Hamburg Tallinn Krakow Amsterdam Berlin Dublin Riga Barcelona Bratislava Madrid Las Vegas As above, the prices will vary significantly from country to country so put in a bit of research first.  For example – pints in Prague will cost around a £1 each compared to Dublin where you are looking closer to £5-6 per pint, so choose your destination wisely. Remember the critical components here: price of booze, quality of women, activities and nightlife. For an in-depth analysis of European locations, find out more at Pissups review of their top 7 European locations in 2019 here. Consider the stags budgets when organising the stag do Keep money in mind for your stags. This can be one of the main bones of contention, so give a realistic idea of costs from the outset to cover the key elements including travel expenses, accommodation, activities and any extras early on.  It’s also a good idea to provide a rough estimate of living expenses or extra costs to budget for. These will include food, booze and anything else you may have planned. Try to get an idea of the stag do costs as early as possible to allow the stags ample time to save or decide if it’s not for them.  Nobody likes repeatedly being asked for extra money as costs escalate, so try to give a realistic idea from the off to reduce any problems later on. This is a big treat for you all, so you want everyone on the same page from the beginning and don’t want to be scrimping when you get there. Get the invites for the stag do out early We are all busy people right? People like as much notice for big occasions as possible, especially when you’ve got to save, take time off, get the other half to agree… or organise childcare. Once you’ve got the stag do date and location decided – get the invites out as early as possible. This will allow you to gage numbers – and once you ask for deposits – identify serious contenders. It’s up to you if you offer a few potential dates for the crowd to decide. However, this can cause challenges and it is always difficult to please everyone. Get a consensus of availability, pick your date, get confirmations and think about getting it booked early on. Then you can relax safe in the knowledge you’ve got a big weeekend of fun on the horizon! Getting to the the stag do – planning and logistics The boring bit. To ensure your epic stag do weekend runs smoothly, make sure you do the hard yards beforehand and begin your preparations and planning early on. Make sure everyone has the travel plans, lifts arranged, times and dates. Check if there are any visa requirements for your location. Give the boys a nudge to check passport dates are valid and mention any kit it might be worth taking if you have specific activities planned (or to take swimmers if there is a pool or hot tub nearby.) Then ensure you have each other’s contact details in case someone gets separated from the group so you don’t leave a man down in an unfamiliar city, or share your locations on your phones to stay connected. Enlist your most organised friends to help with any details and keep this on track. Remember the old boxing adage: train hard, fight easy – and apply this to the planning and delivery of an awesome stag do.

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Finding your wingman – top tips for choosing your best man

The grooms wingman, second in command and person responsible for delivering an exhilarating, funny and suitably apt speech for the main man. So how do you choose your best man for the big day? Here are some of our top tips to choose a great best man for your wedding day. Alongside the groom, the best man is up next (arguably ahead of the father of the bride) as the next most important man of the day. If you’ve read our wedding traditions post, in days gone by you’ll remember the best man was literally chosen as the best swordsman to defend the couple from any troublemakers on the day. High responsibility indeed. And for grooms once you’ve popped the question – this will be one of the most important choices on your wedding planning journey. As your second in command on the big day, your number 2 will help you hold it together through the emotional rollercoaster ahead. Knowing you have a calm and reliable side kick throughout the planning and the nuptials really will help. As such, it cares to put a bit of thought into choosing your best man. The Robin to your Batman, Rodney to your Delboy or Penfold to your Dangermouse. The best man is the best friend who will join you at the front of the alter before your wife (or husband) to be comes strolling in. Make no bones about it, this is a high pressure job and you need a fine chap who can rise to the occasion and help the day run smoothly (without outshining you!) Who should your best man be? First off, it may be worth identifying a list of contenders. The shortlist may include your dad, brother, best friend from school, uni pal or your partner’s best friends husband aka your new best mate. As far as your father and brother go – unless you want to highlight your bond for a particular reason or they are truly your best friend, they will already be fairly prominent on the day (with your brother lined up as an usher.) Instead it may be nice to consider one of your friendship options instead. Speeches work well written by a close friend who knows your best (and worst) sides. But as with everything for the day, this is up to you. To help choose, it is of course worth considering the responsibilities and obligations they will be expected to carry out as part of the best man duties.  Your best friend from school Stevo may be the life and sole of the party. But if after a couple of beers and a round of Jager bombs, he descends into drunken oblivion – he may not be the chap you want slurring away and dishing out all the juiciest stories from that distant weekend in Amsterdam to all of your friends and new family.  Your best man is going to be your head cheerleader before and during the day. With power comes great responsibility, and you need someone who is going to pull you through in style. Stuck between two choices of best man? Why not have two – we’ve seen that grooms are now regularly choosing a couple of best pals for the top job.  This could iron out any competition between friends and could also benefit the day by taking advantage of their different skill sets. What are the responsibilities of the best man? Before the big day Your best man will be expected to organise and pull together your friends and male family members to create an epic stag or batchelor do. This could be at home, abroad or both.  The man in question will need to have good communication and organisational skills to pull this off.  The aim here is to create lasting memories with lots of hijinks you will laugh about long after the day. (Ideally without anyone ending up having to call the British consulate from an eastern European jail.) Bear this in mind when choosing your best man. Leading up to the big ‘I do’ Just before the big day, your best man may ease your nerves with a couple of drinks the night before (just a couple, mind). On the day as you step ‘into the breach’.. the best man will help you get ready on the morning as the groomsmen assemble. You will then entrust him with the rings ahead of the big ‘I do’.  From then on the best man will be the Robin to your Batman as you nervously await the moment of truth. He will help to greet your guests, gather friends and relatives for pictures after the ceremony and step in as the go to guy to iron out any small problems. Once the formalities are out of the way, either before or after your wedding breakfast, all eyes will be on the best man to deliver the key note speech of the day.  Bear in mind, this is THE ONE that all your guests will be looking forward to. You want someone who can skilfully hold guests in the palm of their hand as they wax lyrical about how great you are/how little joy you had with ladies before you met your lovely wife and a number of cringey stories that will leave guests in fits of laughter.  This takes some skill, and as you – hopefully – only want one of these speeches, you want the best man to do you justice. Best friend or not, if your pal struggles to string together a sentence when in front of a crowd, you may want to reconsider his part for this role when choosing your best man. After the ceremony Once the speeches are out of the way, the main gig may be over but the best man should still be there to watch your back throughout the rest of the day. They should continue to help take care of any operational headaches dealing with venue staff,

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