Wedding traditions – 14 fun facts you probably didn’t know about your favourite wedding traditions
With a varied history across the world, find out the meanings behind some of the most well known wedding traditions.
With a varied history across the world, find out the meanings behind some of the most well known wedding traditions.
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So you’ve got engaged, wedding planning has begun in earnest and you have no inkling of how to keep your starving guests stomachs lined for the partying ahead! Read on for some great alternative wedding catering ideas for your big day. Choosing your wedding catering can be a costly and tricky affair and will depend on the type and theme of day you want, the guests attending (think allergies and dietary requirements such as vegetarians etc) and where and when the day is taking place. But fear not! Read on for some handy tips and ideas to consider when planning your wedding catering. When do they need feeding? Well, following the normal pattern of a wedding day, there are a few key times to consider when guests will expect their stomachs to be lined; such as nibbles to greet them on arrival to the venue (or after the ceremony). The main meal of the day (known formally as the wedding breakfast or reception dinner) and then the evening meal or snacks for guests to chow down on in between busting some shapes on the dance floor. Having a whole weekend celebration? If so, you will also have to consider breakfast, snacks and informal dining for the day before/after the celebrations. Never fear – there are plenty of alternative wedding catering options to consider to keep the five thousand fed. Confused? Look no further, as we’ve lined up a few stress free options to give you ideas for catering throughout the day. Traditional catering Okay okay, so this isn’t so much of an alternative wedding catering option. However, being the off the shelf solution at many venues we thought we had better cover this before diving into the alternatives. This is often sourced directly from the venue (hotels for example will nearly always offer their in-house service) or from either one of their recommended catering companies or a company of your own choosing. Depending on the flexibility of the provider, this can include options for just the wedding breakfast, or include canapés to greet your guests on arrival, a three-course wedding breakfast and then evening snacks/buffet with drinks at different points throughout. It’s up to you. Venues will do this week in and out, making this a relatively easy and well oiled process. Depending on your chosen venue however, catering packages don’t tend to be cheap. Once you start adding in a drink on arrival, half a bottle of wine per guest for the sit-down meal and a bacon butty later on, you could be talking £50, £60, £70 plus a head (or an eye watering £5-7000 for a 100 guest wedding!) Getting to grips with the costs early on will certainly be beneficial when you juggle this with the venue hire (if there are separate charges for this) and your other wedding related costs. Each venue will have their own set of rules regarding allowing external caterers, ranging from not at all, to recommended suppliers only. If you’re lucky, and this will depend heavily on the type of venue – a company of your choice. Wedding catering is often one of the most expensive aspects of the day, so get an idea of costs per head for various packages when viewing venues or contacting local companies to factor this into your wedding budget. Choose correctly and you may still have some pennies left over for that free bar! Outsourced caterers Following on from the in-house options above, there are a broad selection of caterers that will be eager to help you out on your day – offering everything from fully catered options as highlighted above, to just the wedding breakfast or evening catering. As with anything, these can vary tremendously from low to high end with the prices varying accordingly. Pin down exactly what you get for the options available with either an overall price for your number of guests or as a cost per head (check if this can be reduced if you have lower numbers than anticipated). Children may be cheaper (as they won’t be taking advantage of the booze if provided) so check if there are different tariffs for guests, and also identify any potential dietary requirements from the off and whether these can be accommodated (don’t forget to ask about these on your wedding invites.) If you have a particular choice of cuisine in mind, exploring your local catering companies might be a great option, particularly where they specialise in your chosen type. Some venues such as certain barns, local halls or marquee weddings will be completely DIY with you hiring your own caterers etc. This will allow a greater range of options for you to choose from. Bear in mind however, this will be one more thing to manage in the build-up and it will be worth double checking exactly what is included and whether they provide the tableware, cutlery etc or if this is to be hired separately. A good catering company should make this as painless as possible. They will let you know exactly what they provide and will require on the day (kitchen area, gas and electric supply etc) and then be self-sufficient on the day. As with hotels and local caterers, you should also get the opportunity to do a tasting to confirm your menu selection so take full advantage of this as one of the perks of your wedding planning! BBQ We’ve attended several weddings where the happy couple have opted for a BBQ to cater for their guests. This can be a great and relatively inexpensive idea for alternative wedding catering. Usually a popular option, particularly for the carnivores in the bunch, this is simple and effective with plenty of options to cater for any veggies in the group if you plan in advance – from veggie burgers to skewer kebabs. This can prove much more cost effective than a three-course dinner, however is inevitably less formal than a sit down served meal. As with the other options; it’s
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“My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.” Winston Churchill Once you have decided to take the plunge and propose, the first formality towards securing your bride to be’s hand in marriage will be to acquire a ring for the job. By acquire, we don’t encourage you to pull off your own Hatton Garden robbery (the last one didn’t work out that well), but instead to choose the perfect engagement ring that will be a great fit for your future beau in a style and shape he/she’ll enjoy, and at a price that won’t break the bank. If you’re lucky there may be a family heirloom you/she has lined up for the job. If so, the chances are you’ve probably spoken about this and your first steps will be to work out if any adjustments need to be made to the size of the band, settings of the stone and so forth. If not, then you are now in the market for an engagement ring and it is down to you to choose and buy the perfect engagement ring for your bride to be. And if you are anything like most men, your knowledge regarding materials, ‘cuts’ of diamonds and what you are likely to get for your money will be sketchy at best. Don’t let that worry you, as we’re here to help with the following guide. Budget First things first, what is your budget? It’s best to determine this before you go haring off like a bull in and china shop or make outlandish claims of buying a 2-carat diamond for the good lady. Some sources suggest three months wages, some suggest one. We would advise you not to break yourself financially and buy the best ring that you can afford, without throwing yourself into debt. The ring should be a symbol of your love and it’s the thought that counts. However, bear in mind if you do the deed with a £500 ring under the guise that it’s the best you can afford, and then turn up shortly after with a brand new £5k motorcycle, car or other significant boy toy – get ready for the proverbial to hit the fan. She is likely to be unimpressed and this will be used against you until your dying day. A months gross wages seem like a good place to start and tweak up or down as you see best. Style What style of ring would your wife to be like? You want to pick a ring that fits her preferences and gets the engagement off to a winning start! This is the time to go secret agent on the good lady and cast your mind back to any conversations you may have had where she mentioned cut or styles she did or didn’t like. Have any of her friends recently got engaged and what did she say about their rings? Look at her current jewellery – is it chunky or traditional, does she wear lots of white or yellow gold? Does she like simple, understated designs or is she a big bling kind of girl that wants the sparkliest number in the room? If big and bold, you will want to get the largest diamond you can afford. Alternatively, if her style is more understated or earthy, you may look to go for a more traditional sleek design or something completely different like an ‘ecoring’ styled from wood. Is there a particular stone such as an emerald, ruby or birthstone she has mentioned previously? If so, you may want to look for a ring that incorporates these or if going off piste, have one of these stones instead of the traditional diamond for a different look altogether (carefully consider first if she’ll be okay with this and not just to save you a few pennies!) In the lead up, it may be worth taking a subtle trip to a jeweller and gaging her response to different rings as you eye up the gents watches. Take a minute away from drooling over the Breitlings and Omegas and prime her with a couple of comments such as ‘that’s a nice one’. Make note of her feedback and move on. Putting in the hard yards now will reap dividends later on. Band size Again, you may have to inject a bit of subterfuge into this one. Either have a look at one of her existing rings (or ask her friend or mum to) and take this to a jeweller to be sized or ask her ring size to buy her a test ring as a birthday or Christmas present. With a wide selection of rings that won’t break the bank, the online retailer Argento can be a great option for this with lots of reasonably priced rings from brands such as Pandora, Lilly and Rose and more. When purchasing the engagement ring, one of the questions you should ask is if they will resize this for free if it doesn’t fit properly. This should however be considered as a last resort to save yourself any embarrassment of the ring being too loose – or too tight –on the day of the proposal. Material There are a variety of metals to choose from for the wedding band including rose gold, white gold, silver, platinum and palladium (and metals made up of a combination of these). Each has their own advantages and disadvantages and they will also vary in cost (which could mean compromises elsewhere.) Platinum for example is the purest and most durable of these and is also the most expensive. Yellow gold in contrast is up to 75% pure gold and is much softer which, after many years of wear may need to be re-plated. For a girl who loves a bit of pink, rose gold is also a very popular choice. Yellow gold is very traditional but may be perceived to be old fashioned by some (most of our mum’s will probably have
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“Marriage is not kick-boxing, it’s salsadancing.” ― Amit Kalantri Ah the proposal. For the uninitiated, you may be wondering how to propose and what the best way to propose is? Well, clench your buttocks gentleman and take a deep breath as this is one of the most nerve-wracking moments of your long and winding wedding journey. But never fear – provided you don’t trip and fall onto one knee with a ring unexpectedly in your hand, you can take the surprise out of it (from your side at least) with the help of a bit of pre planning. Our top tips on how and when to propose will guide you through the sticky first chapter of getting married. Before we get into the nitty gritty, I’m writing this based on a few assumptions that would serve you well to adhere to, which are: You love your bride to be She loves you You’ve been dating/going out considerably more than 1 week – 6 months plus You are already fairly certain of the answer and/or you’ve taken so long to pop the question that the answer is a foregone conclusion You are not your bride to be’s stalker All agreed? Good. First of all, where should you do it? Bear in mind that this story will be recalled to all and sundry through the millenia – particularly if it is either a good or a bad one. And we all know which is going to be preferred by your – hopefully – wife to be. “Yeah Dave proposed on Saturday night during the X Factor break, couldn’t really say no though could I!?” Yeah good one Dave, you’re areal hero. A little effort here goes a long way. We’re not saying you have to whisk your beau to be off to Paris for a romantic weekend for the occasion (but if as the author did, you were going there anyway, it seems like a shame to waste the opportunity if you’re thinking along those lines!) As far as proposals go, there are cliché ones (but not necessarily bad), romantic ones, surprise ones, mediocre ones and frankly, a bit crap ones. These may blend with the type of person you are. You want to be true to yourself in doing so, but we’ve heard of some particularly average efforts and who wants to be the guy that drops to one knee on a drizzly Saturday night at home and spits out, shall we do it then…? It’s good to have some sense of occasion to erm, mark the occasion. Formalities – asking her father for her hand in marriage This one is up to you. The age-old tradition to ask your bride to be’s father for her hand in marriage is a great way to start off on the right foot. This will depend how close you/she is to her dad, and if he is the type of chap that would like or expect this. Also, is this something you think she would appreciate? (If you think he’ll say no but are determined to propose anyway, you may want to skip this part altogether!) If so, time your moment right – perhaps over a drink or two– when you are both in good spirits and you have a chance to have a quiet chat with minimal interruptions. Broach the subject carefully but confidently, say there’s something you’ve been meaning to ask him and off you go. The main point here is to outline you have his daughter’s best interests at heart, that you will be there to support her and help achieve her hopes and aspirations to become the best she can be, and enforce that you are not a fly by night character. Get Dad on side and you’re off to a great start – don’t forget this may pay dividends when it comes to helping to pay for the big day later on. When should you propose? This is the big moment, so its important you get the timing right. This is going to be up to you to feel out, but it is important that you propose when you are both in a calm and happy state when you feel ready and not rushed. Considerations for this could include: Is there a particular date or anniversary that is special to you both? This could be the anniversary of when you both first met, a birthday or maybe if she’s a girl that loves Christmas find your moment then. Ideally before the drunken, comatose aftermath of an enormous Christmas dinner! Are you planning any special trips anywhere soon? This could be the perfect time if you have the idea of proposing in mind first. Great landmarks may be cliché (i.e. the top of the Eiffel Tower), but who cares? This is your moment so go for it. This may be extra special if there is something in particular she wants to go and see or do. Helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon? Check. A restaurant overlooking the sea after a great meal. Yes! Just make sure you leave yourself enough time to get the ring beforehand. Is there somewhere she’s always wanted to go or do? Such as a hot air balloon ride, climb a mountain or go to a particular landmark or country? This could be a great opportunity when deciding how to propose if she is already on a high from achieving an ambition or ticking something off the bucket list. Hell, top it off with a good proposal and its all gravy. Whenever you choose, try to find a time when you can both be alone afterwards to reflect and enjoy the moment together. If you are away somewhere there may also be lots of phone calls to make so you may want a charged and in signal mobile ready to go! Where should you propose? This is probably the big one that will be remembered and will help to mark the occasion, so its worth putting a bit of
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